TEACH HIM INITIATIVE.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BEBE❤

You strip me naked. Talk of being vulnerable, I become that every single time I put it down. Rawness>>>(pun intended). I’m glad I found you in the midst of finding myself, I’m glad that this journey has journeyed in the most beautiful way. Happy Anniversary Bebe❤

I love writing , it calms my mind and heals my wounds. My baby’s main aim was to teach! The men to be specific😂thus the title Teach Him Initiative. My objective was to create awareness on issues men face in our communities. It was a good catch but life happened.

Along the way I could not resist the urge of being flexible. I kept drawing inspirations from so many things that triggered me to write about them. I’m glad I shipped in . I have learnt so much in this journey . I have pushed myself to staying consistent even in days I didnt feel like it. Basically,my WHY has kept me grounded.
I have built a community, people who read my art, you all are amazing! I’m glad most of you resonate with my work .

We have grown , not yet there but there is so many reasons to be grateful. Discipline and consistency have been my driving force, cheers to many more years of consistently sharing my art.

So my baby and I will eat cake to celebrate this milestone.😊

FYI :We are officially turning one on 31st July😁

FEEL AT HOME

HOME: Could be a place or a person😊. So to you my avid reader, Feel at home😃.

Gathering words for this specific piece has taken so much time! I had prepared this for Thursday but the many times I have deleted this piece ha! Hope you love it anyway☺

I’m a Lover, I love hard! I’m a selective person when it comes to people I allow into my space. My friend recently reminded me of the much love I give to people and that melted my heart( It’s noticeable)

I’m a sucker for soft love, ( tough love is not my thing! ). I feel so blessed for having my family with me, the piece that holds me together when everything else falls apart. My first home.My happy place. Although I’d want some things to be better, I’m grateful for family.

I have made friends, few friends who push me to be better , directly or indirectly . Friends who genuinely challenge me in so many ways that I can’t even explain. This guys are my home. Their pure intentions and determination is something that I totally appreciate.

Despite all this love that I give and recieve, Do I love myself the same way? I think I do😑.I have learnt to be gentle on myself,speak my feelings out more !.

The thing is that we build homes in people,we give them the love,care and attention but we forget to do the same for ourselves. We hurt when this “homes” don’t do the same for us. Have you asked yourself why? Maybe they have nothing to offer😊, maybe they are learning to love themselves in order to show you love, maybe they are fighting silent battles and until they win is when they’ll be in a position to be a “home” for you. And it’s totally okay!

Are you in a position to stand alone when this people you call home can no longer hold you down?

My whole point is, It’s okay to meet people who genuinely love and care for you but keep in mind that they won’t always be there. Some days you will fall out and it’s totally okay . So when such happens,! I hope you are able to make it on your own.

Love,
Hilda

Vibes and Inshallah

I wanted to skip writing this post for next week but hellooo! Somebody call 911 because next week is my freaking birthday! Alexa, play me Birthday Song By Nviiri The StoryTeller.

It’s weird how I have anticipated for my birthday since the beginning of this year, I feel like the gap between my last birthday and this , really sucked in one way or the other. Things escalated real quick and at some point I had to pause everything for a minute.

It’s in this same year that my emotions were all over the place😂; For me to write this, really means I am okay now. Transitioning from Uni to the outside world contributed much to that because I somehow felt things should go my way. One greatest lesson for me has been allowing things to just align in a way they should and not how I want them to; more of managing expectations because life is a bitch!😈

There were months I applied for jobs like crazy, I was desperate and I felt like I needed a job immediately after school, I did not realize that it was okay not to have one immediately. Most of us have been there, you relate innit?

What I failed to realize was maybe I needed time to better myself, harness my skills in the areas of interest such that when I’m called in for a job atleast I’d be able to navigate through it. I feel as the Gen Z, we fail to realize that Rome was not built in a day.
I stopped applying for jobs, and I used that time to revamp my resume, volunteer in a couple of things that aligned with my areas of interests,educate myself more.

Basically, I did what we all fail to do in such crisis. Anyway, I’m in a better space now, in the middle of answered prayers.Mashallah.

Did I mention that I’m a whole C.E.O now😭, my baby is four months now. I’m proud of myself, the ups and downs have been worth it. When everything else fails, I have one thing to be proud of. ( Lowkey vibing to Good Days By SZA).

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My blog will be turning a year old this month. Thank you all for engaging with me, I appreciate❤.

We are turning 1 this month😍

As cliche as it is, this new year is for me to inhale all the good vibes, accept that life happens and everything happens for a reason. Acceptance and awareness has been key for me. Live, love and let loose (been so hard on myself lol)

I’m praying for better days ahead, I’m aware there are more and more crappier days to come but hey? Allow me to focus on the now because that is all that matters.

I appreciate all the positive vibrations and I’m glad that God has always held me down through and through.So as I turn a year older next week, I’m allowing myself to be intentional in everything, it won’t be easy but we have to try right?

BIRTHDAY GIFTS IDEAS⬇

XOXO.

Rawness and Acceptance

When I tell you the theme for me this year has been accountability and taking stock of everything around me internally and externally.

When I tell you there are days I promise to be a good person , act right and yet I fail to be that,you won’t believe that😂.

There are days have promised to be a patient friend,sister,daughter; Patience for me is being less rational,judgemental and being more understanding and mature when handling things.

Some days it works but other days my goodness😆 ( I can explain). I’m imperfect in every way and that is okay ,we all are.

So recently an article circulated on Twitter by the famous Chimamanda Adichie; this lady writes I tell you .I loved how she articulately called out people who tarnished her name in public and yet kissed her ass in private.

She wrote it so well without painting a bad image, it was effortlessly done with so much grace😂.We are used to guys throwing tantrums at each other on social media,but this lady here didn’t do that. We should all strive to be her.

It’s funny how we are ever sharing memes,quotes and maybe articles that point out on our oppresors.You’d bump on a relatable post and the first thing we think of is “so and so did this to me.”

But how about we change the outlook of that and view ourselves as the villains sometimes.You could be the fake friend in someone else’s story, the toxic partner in your relationship,the rude colleague at your work place but the negative victim mentality won’t allow you to hold yourself accountable when your bad traits are called out.

In most cases we have traumatized people around us, we’ve hurt them in one way or the other but end up justifying the acts.How about we hold ourselves accountable and become the bigger people we expect other people to be. It’s hard to accept that we are flawed as the people around us; What you see is what you get😊

Today is a good day to be real and be better people but first let us accept that we are flawed and learn to hold ourselves accountable.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

A cup of positiviTea

Being a creative has proven to be taskful, you got to constantly recharge to be creative😂( Hollup! Does that make sense?)

Anyway, We are half way through the year and as usual, many of us have to go back to the drawing board, assess our progress, failures, wins, and pending goals;( somebody wake me up in Malibu, anyone adopting a bouncing 20 something baby girl?)

Please tell “the process” to hurry, some of us can’t wait to meet you😂, we still trust you though (see what I did there?)

Halfway through the year, having to deal with both good and bad days, gratitude has kept me going, I dunno what is installed for me in the remaining part of the year but I’m positive and certain that brighter days are yet to come.

I’m stepping into this month with so much positiviTea; I affirm that all things will keep working for my good.
I affirm that I’m capable and well equipped with everything that is going to get me onto the next level.

Anyhoo, a little reminder to you who feels pressured by everything: TRUST THE PROCESS, It may take a little bit longer, but that’s the beauty of the journey don’t you think?

Meanwhile, keep doing you, self-pity is a killer of joy, get up and add value to yourself. Eventually, things will fall into place.
That’s my little cup of POSITIVITEA.

Happy New Month!!

I BURNED OUT

We are taught to glorify work. Keep working they say, on yourself, business, art not forgetting the part where smart is added. “Work smart”!!! I’m not against working, don’t get me wrong beloved, I enjoy working, get me into any project, and see me work my ass off haha.

Working, for me simply means meeting those crazy deadlines, studying, having an action plan towards achieving those goals, constantly hitting the road to get those clients, list is endless try adding all your definitions of work. Interesting right?

The rewards are nice after all, by the way, I must admit but can we talk about the pressure, stress, lonely days and nights, the BURNOUTS!! Imagine how the older guys with more responsibilities feel, that’s how serious this is.

Burnouts occur when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and failing to meet constant demands, when this prolongs one begins to lose the interest and motivation to take up things you signed up for. This in turn leads to meaningless productivity, hopelessness, and being doubtful with your abilities, detachment, loss of motivation, decreased sense of accomplishment, and withdrawal from responsibilities.

Most parts of my quarter one consisted of too much work, remember the meaningless productivity I mentioned?? I had days I experienced such since I had this notion of having to be productive, all day, every day.

“All work without play makes Jack a dull boy”.Amid all the hustles of life, do you pause and rest? make time for your loved ones? Generally, do you set some time outside work without guilt-tripping yourself about it?

How does one deal with such predicaments?

1.Take time off

-Try taking a complete break from everything and use that time to recharge your batteries.

2.Find balance in your life

-Focus on the parts that bring you joy away from work.

3.Reevaluate your priorities

-Increase your overall health and happiness.

If you have been experiencing burnouts and stress, learn what you can do to regain balance and feel positive again. Good Luck!

Let’s Vent

So a lot has been happening across the world ,my country Kenya not excluded. The thoughts of everything annoys me to be honest😂.

Can we begin with what Covid has brought? I mean it’s a whole new world we are living in ( Blue world) The masks are cute though .

Unemployment

Well,living in a third world country,this issue has been in existence for the longest time now,but the negative impacts that Covid has brought is this,most of the employed guys have risked being laid off from workplaces,businesses have closed down.It’s tough to be honest.
Hugs to every victim of this tragic,It shall be well.

Economy

As a result of Covid, the economy of most countries has been affected causing a negative shift in the demand and supply of goods.
Most prices have hiked, fuel prices,food ,transport (sobs).

Lockdown and curfews

I don’t know who the Ministry consults when making decisions but what would stop Covid from spreading by locking down 5 counties??Yet activities are still as normal as they have been!!
Anyway guys,I’m done with Covid.Don’t be a victim of ignorance. Keep safe and sanitize😊

B) Online Wars

Have you been on Twitter,this is one hell of a platform that gives me alot of mixed reactions.This platform is toxic to be honest haha.But anyhu choose your online battles wisely,not every online war needs your reaction no matter the platform.

C) Conflicts and death
Recently,most murder cases involve spouses,Yea imagine that.
Won’t vent much on this but honestly murdering your lover ain’t worth it.Period!!

I have so much issues to vent about,but for now let me leave it at this.

Manifestation

I became fond of watching videos of people reviewing their vision boards, and celebrating their small wins last year and It always felt nice.
At the beginning of this year I gathered courage to create one, and let me tell you, I ended up drafting a “vision board” in my notebook😂.

Do you remember those Science projects back in High School? Carrying boards and sticky notes all over? I was not ready for that again.

My lazy self drafted goals I wanted to achieve for this year in my small notebook , and through out the process I was confident and kept manifesting every goal I put down.

What triggered this post was after going back to my “vision-notebook” at the end of the first quarter, March and realized I had achieved some of the goals I had set for myself.

Happiness is an understatement,maaahn!! I was so happy.
Manifestation is something that is underrated but I think it works, but we percieve it wrongly.

What is Manifestation?

Manifestation is bringing something tangible into your life through attraction and belief. I bumped into something that really made so much sense.

There is more to manifestation than just will-power and positivity.

My understanding of this is simple; You can’t bring something tangible into your life without putting work to it. Your dream car, dream body, dream job, vacation and all that you want to acquire . Do the work, and what you manifest will surely come to pass because the universe listens and sees😊.

Ps: I manifested for a vacation this year but I haven’t put effort into making that happen. What’s the effort? Saving towards it, but clearly I have no plan Lol! We will try this next year haha.

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Break-Up With Yourself

Many are those times that we fear letting go of an expired version of ourselves because we simply are comfortable with just being that.

The times we hold on tight on what we used to be instead of dwelling on what we should be, and that is sad because we get toxic .

As we start a new month, I hope you will be in a position to shake your norm a bit and break up with your old self because it’s quite important.

“But how am I gonna do that?” You ask.

1. Go back to scratch

-Your old toxic habits are not needed in this next phase, go back and keenly check on yourself and take inventories of what should be added or eliminated from your old ways for you to progress forward.

That nasty attitude, pride, ego, jealousy, insecurities, procrastination, laziness are not needed in this phase, let go of them, honey. They’ll keep costing you so much.

ACTIVITY: Maybe this is the time to think hard on what toxic traits you’ve been carrying along and make adjustments.

2. Dare to feel uncertain and unsure

-Look at it this way, imagine crossing a river in a foreign land, you simply are unaware of what awaits you on the other side, but you have to cross the river for you to reach your destination . Does that make sense? Well, it does for me.

3. Return to a place of faith

-So you’ve crossed this river, unaware of what waits for you on the other side,but you know what? Your faith is still intact because you are hopeful that you will reach the final destination unhurt. Learn to operate in that place of faith. Execute what you’ve always wanted to do and have faith that everything will work out just fine.

4. Seek fresh knowledge,fresh strategy, and fresh creativity

-Keep learning,find new ways of operating your day-to-day activities. Dont under estimate the small positive things you do on a daily.

‘ Hard work of laying down your life, will constantly yield beauty that you can’t fathom.’

LOVE YOURZ

I randomly listened to some video online this week, I picked up some catchy words that said ‘Don’t fake it till you make it’ rather ‘Be it, to become it’.

Faking has become a thing nowadays, it’s never a new topic to be discussed, I feel that people have normalized it and it is becoming toxic to the community especially for our generation Z. There is too much pressure to making it in life to a point of people putting themselves in situations that don’t feel right.

Settling for safe is an option, but is it worth it in the long run? Therefore for us to transition into what we want to become, there is a need to love and appreciate yours because at the end of the day its you that matters.

So how do you LOVE YOURS?

1.Accept and appreciate who you are and your background

I mean,the minute you learn to own who you are or where you are from, your gratitude mindset kicks in. Periodttt!!!!

2.Don’t pretend, embody who you want to become.

Instead of faking it, start carrying yourself in high diligence equal to the person you want to become, while doing that you have to put in all the work to be the person you embody.

3.Remind yourself that everything you want comes with a price

Having dreams and aspirations is free,but comes with a price; the price of character, hard work, and discipline.

4.Invest in quality and not quantity

Having that small circle of people who are equally yoked as you is quite important, this prevents you from having to feel like you are out of place or having to fit in. I believe in having few people around who we will help each other tap into our potentials, have fun, live, laugh, and love rather than a multitude of people who don’t add value.

5.Don’t sleep on your level

The journey is yours,own it! Learn,relearn, unlearn but don’t sabotage your dreams and ideas with that imposter syndrome.

As J.cole puts it, “There is no such thing as a life that’s better than yours”.Invest in it

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